There are so many romantic relationships out there going sour because people are too busy trying to hold on to the remnants of what used to be a good thing. Yes it is true that communication is a huge part of laying a solid intimate foundation but what lies underneath all of those words? Are you really made for each other?
Be Honest With Yourself
Do you really think that his playing video games ten hours a day is cool? Do you honestly love the way she interrupts all of your conversations in mid-sentence? Sometimes couples are together so long that in the interim of constantly trying to please each other, they push what’s important to them in the background.
As we get older, we tend to get a better understanding of ourselves and our partners. If the relationship is stagnant then resentment settles in. It could be that you start to resent the mundane nature of your relationship. Maybe you want to be more active, become more of a socialite and feel that your partner should understand this by now. Perhaps he/she feels secure in a regular routine way of life. This frustration can lead to anger, a desire to seek revenge and eventually hurting each other.
The Keys to Compatibility
Know what areas of compatibility are most important to you. Once you’ve established that, it’ll become apparent whether the person you’re considering a serious relationship with will meet your needs in the long run.
There are various levels of compatibility:
- Physical Chemistry
- Social Circle
- Spiritual Connection
- Best Friends
- Environment
A Sneak Preview
- Before dating, observe your potential love interest in a group setting, possibly during recreation
- View the individual from a distance without him/her knowing (not stalking), this way you can see how they treat others and whether they are a flirt
- Through casual talks, find out their circumstances and goals
- Talk to others who know them, this way you’ll find out what kind of reputation they have
Know what you’re looking for in a romantic relationship. The more compatible you are, the more your relationship will naturally flow. You will feel comfortable being who you really are and unafraid to express freely what you really want out of the relationship. In turn, your relationship will thrive more effortlessly.